I think some make themselves appear as a “good person,” but what really defines us as that? Are you a good person because the good you do outweighs the bad? With that logic – are you a bad person because you do more bad things than you do anything else?
I don’t think people are good or bad. I think we just are. To be human is to have faults and to also have admirable attributes. That is the nature of being human, but just like all things there has to be balance.
A group can host a free meal for a local community and some may sing praises about them. They applaud how they catered to those around them and they may even label them as saints. In the eyes of those people, they are good.
Others may see what they have done in the presence of cameras and publicity afterward. They may think that good things, if truly meant to be good for the sake of being good, don’t need acknowledgement. Some say that if a “good” thing can’t just be done and go unspoken, then it isn’t a good thing.
However there are those who are just glad a good thing can be done, despite the intent. It all comes down to the eye of the beholder.
So if we are not in control of how people perceive us, why do we try so hard to alter their opinions of us? Are we that afraid to be at fault or to have insecurities? Is being human so difficult that we have to tip the scale one way or another to be defined as anything?
At the end of the day we all want to be loved and to be home with the people we care about. And to be cared about in return. The people we love dearly see us for the good things and the bad things we do and love us anyway. It is their perception of us that matters, but mostly our own perception of ourselves.
